Self-Sabotage: It’s an Inside Job

A Self Care & Wanderlust Journal ― Candace Aliké Smith, Founded 2015

It wasn’t until recently that when I, Cherise, really began to look at the notion of self-sabotage, that I realized I may not know as much as I thought I did.

In a Facebook group discussion, we were attempting to determine why we felt stuck and not achieving our dreams. The question was asked if we were sabotaging our success? To make sure I was answering honestly, I first looked at the definition for sabotage.

Sabotage: To deliberately, destroy, damage, or obstruct.

Once I saw the word deliberately, I immediately dismissed this as being a personal issue and then questioned if I had been using the word incorrectly in the past. Deliberate? That was a game changer.

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